if i can do it today - The Best Advice So Far - Barrel of Monkeys monkeys forming a chain across a blue sky

if i can do it today

I was a skinny kid with a big butt. Just calling it like it is. By skinny, I mean that I’ve been five-foot-nine since eight grade—haven’t grown an inch—and yet, when I graduated high school, I had a 26-inch waist and weighed 105 lbs. Alas, a disproportionate amount of that sleight weight was…


what if

“How are you?” “How’s it going?” “What’s new?” While I’ve often had full-blown, soul-bearing conversations result from my posing these simple prompts, the typical range of expected replies remains fairly limited: “Good, and you?” “Eh, you know…” “Not much. You?” I suppose these exchanges serve…


the best advice so far: up

up

I’m not a film critic—at least that’s not the point of this blog, though I do seem to have snuck a few reviews in from time to time (e.g., Beauty and the Beast, Singin’ in the Rain, Cinderella, and a few others) where they illustrate a best-advice-so-far kind of observation. Well, as it turns out,…


The Best Advice So Far: The 20-Minute Vacation - sunglasses reflecting palm trees over tropical waters

twenty-minute vacation

I'm trying something new today: a video post. All I'll add is that, after watching, if you are still having trouble figuring out how this could work for you and your life, get in touch via the comments and we'll brainstorm together. It can be done! And now, the video. Enjoy "The 20-Minute…


The Best Advice So Far - even though - black ink spreading out through clear liquid

even though

I was talking with a friend recently. I’ll call him Ralph here. Ralph’s relationship with his brother has been on the outs of late, and he was trying to understand what had happened and what he might be able to do at this point to improve the relationship. I asked a series of questions. This…


The Best Advice So Far - unplug (wall socket extension with too many wires plugged in)

unplug (kindly)

Let me say up front that this post may not be for you. Who is it for then? Well, it’s for people like me: who love people and whose natural tendency is to talk with and listen to others who tend to have high interpersonal output most of the time who sometimes find themselves running on fumes who…


The Best Advice So Far - peepers - woodland wetlands in moonlight

peepers

Snow fell well into spring this year. So whenever a day’s temperate now peaks 50°, there’s a palpable buzz in the air that feels more like summer. As far as the eye can see, sidewalks teem with bikers and joggers, dog walkers and pullers of little red wagons. By the time essential work wound down…


The Best Advice So Far - dwelling - dilapidated bedroom in what appears to have been an old, wealthy home

dwelling

The phone rang at 9:52 this morning. Unknown number. I didn’t pick up. At 9:53, a voice message appeared. I listened. It was “Fabiola from the District Court victim advocacy office,” informing me that the case against the woman who stole my wallet and fraudulently used my debit card last summer…


The Best Advice So Far - bathwater - dirty brownish water

bathwater

“You always have a choice.” I’ve spoken or written this central message of The Best Advice So Far literally thousands of times by now. And yet, I still feel and see the power in it as much as I ever have—the power to transform the way we view and live life. In the first chapter of the book, I…


The Best Advice So Far - choice: the wall - dilapidated building inland Bahamas

choice: the wall

In my last post, I invited you to celebrate with me the successful completion of a yearlong writing goal I’d set for myself in 2017. Since that post, I’ve allowed myself a break from all things blog. It was strategic. I knew that if I were to just continue on writing at the previously set “goal…