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likable

This week, a totally cool and unexpected thing happened. It’s kind of a big deal. I’ve been overwhelmed not only by this development itself, but by the outpouring of shared excitement from family, friends, readers, other authors – even people I didn’t previously know existed – all joining in the…


life is not fair: big fish in small bowl, little fish in big bowl

not fair

I’ve been taking a trip down memory lane lately where this blog is concerned. I love when I re-read a post from years back and have forgotten that I’d even written it, allowing me to read it in a whole new light. I love it even more when I laugh or cringe at all the right parts, wondering what’s…


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un-worry

Worry and anxiety have been big themes in the last couple of weeks around here: You may recall that I moved last year about this time into a new place. It’s the first time I’ve really felt “at home” in 20 years, and it has allowed me room to breathe for just $800/month.  The landlords invited me…


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sweet somethings

It's somewhat alarming to me how many social kindnesses are rapidly going the way of the dodo. But the effect of a simple and sincere compliment is still as profound as ever. If you've gotten out of practice, getting ready to give a compliment may very well make the back of your neck go all…


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blabber

I read a claim today that women talk three times more than men: 20,000 words per day for women compared with 7,000 for the average man. However, more recent and credible research counters this, stating that the average adult of either sex utters about 16,000 words per day. To get a better grasp of…